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    Shattered Dreams
    Miscarriage Newsletter

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    offering support, information, sharing and hope for the future to parents experiencing miscarriage

    Miscarriage is a frequent, yet often misunderstood experience for many women. Emotions following a miscarriage often include: grief, sorrow, anger, despair, guilt, depression and feelings of emptiness. Whether your pregnancy was planned or a surprise, the loss of your precious baby can send your emotions on a roller coaster ride. You want answers to your many questions. Validation of your feelings. Acknowledgement of the loss of your very real baby.

    Shattered Dreams offered a forum to share your story, your poetry. Contact with other parents of similar experience. Remembrance for your never-to-be-known baby. And announcement of your successful subsequent pregnancy.

    Shattered Dreams offered emotional support for parents from those who have walked the same road. Sharing in this sensitively written newsletter will help you heal and grow from the heart-break of your miscarriage.

    Although Shattered Dreams is unfortunately no longer in print, please take a moment to glance over the contents of our past issues listed below. Printed back issues are still available for just $4.00 per issue, or all 15 issues for $45.00.

    I hope that this information is of help to you, and that your future will start to look a little brighter soon. From someone who has been there,

    Catherine McDiarmid,
    grieving 5 precious babies - while celebrating 3 special boys. butterfly

    Volume 1, Number 1

    MY STORY - by Beth Cruickshank - a 2nd miscarriage at 8 wks. followed by a D&C, suggestion on what others can do to help.
    ASK THE DOCTOR - testing after miscarriage.
    HOPE FOR THE FUTURE - Vitamin E, herbs.
    WHY QUIT? - Smoking traps placenta zinc, mom's smoking and children's cancer, passive smoking more dangerous than suspected.
    WHY? - environmental, teratogens, birth control methods, smoking.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies. butterfly

    Volume 1, Number 2-3

    A FATHER'S STORY - A vasectomy after 8 losses, by Nick.
    DEAR SUBSCRIBERS Editor takes to her bed for difficult subsequent pregnancy.
    THE BIRTHDAY GIFT - A surprise pregnancy followed by a miscarriage at 11 wks. and a D&C, by Lynne Melcombe.
    HOPE FOR THE FUTURE - Red raspberry leaves.
    ASK THE DOCTOR - "A clump of cells" or a baby?
    WHY QUIT? - Where there's smoke there's harm.
    WHY? Conization, infections, DES daughters, environmental, I.U.D. and P.I.D., herpes.
    MISCARRIAGE RESEARCH - Recurrent miscarriage may be partner- specific.
    NEWS - Miscarried Babies Monument.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.

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    Volume 1, Number 4

    MY STORY - Home delivery and burial of a miscarried baby boy with a malformed cord at 5 mths., by Sharron Morris.
    HOPE FOR THE FUTURE - Incompetent cervix, by Lynn Friesen.
    WHY QUIT? - Fetal Tobacco Syndrome.
    WHY? - Herbs, Aluminium, Chemotherapy, Electric Blankets, caffeine, Dalkon Shield, Hot Tubs, Electric shock, DES daughters, douching.
    A MOTHER'S SADNESS - a 2nd miscarriage of a baby boy by placenta previa, by Barb McBurnie.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies. butterfly

    Volume 2, Number 1

    MY THIRD PREGNANCY - the loss of a 3rd pregnancy followed by 2 successful pregnancies, by Maureen Cristall.
    WHY? - Spermicide warning, Endometriosis, Fibroid tumour, Abortion, The Pill, Chromosomes, Mycoplasma.
    NEWS CLIPPINGS - Bottled Water Lessens Chance of Miscarriage, One in 3 Pregnancies Miscarry.
    GRIEVING A FIRST BABY - by Marie Becket.
    FEELINGS - by Ann Pasko.
    HOPE FOR THE FUTURE - Black Haw/Viburum Prunofolium.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.

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    Volume 2, Number 2

    THE BUMP - A tender story of a miscarriage after 8 yrs. of infertility, by Susanne Langdon.
    WHY? - Substance abuse - cocaine, alcohol, heroin, marijuana, methamphetamines.
    NEWS CLIPPINGS - Aspirin may ease some pregnancy risks, Study lowers risk in pregnant diabetics.
    ARCTIC WINTER - A 1st baby lost at 15 wks. due to an automobile accident, by Laura Sharpe Lahrson.
    LOSSES - BUT GAINS - A letter of appreciation to those who helped in the healing process, by Ramona Leavey.
    BOOK REVIEW - "The Shadow of an Angel" by Marion Cohen, reviewed by Donna Hardaker.
    NEW RESOURCE - The Confinement Line.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies. butterfly

    Volume 2, Number 3

    MY STORY - The heartache of 2 miscarriages in a row, by Debby Hall.
    WHY? - Genetic problems, vaginal infections.
    HOLDING ON TO HOPE - The story of 5 miscarriages, including 2 sets of twins, by Deena McCauley.
    MYCOPLASMA - An informative article on T-strain mycoplasma, a possible cause of miscarriage.
    BOOK REVIEW - "Preventing Miscarriage: The Good News" by Johnathan Scher, MD. and Carol Dix, reviewed by Debbie Anderson.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.

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    Volume 2, Number 4

    MY STORY - 2 miscarriages due to genetic problems, followed by 3 difficult, but successful pregnancies, by Shelley Lombardi.
    WHY? - Drugs, cigarette and alcohol, X-rays, Anaesthetics, exposure to chemical and pesticides.
    ASK CATHY - a question about milk coming in after a late miscarriage.
    THE VDT DEBATE - Two articles about the possible dangers of being exposed to VDT's.
    RESOURCES - A listing of Canadian and U.S. resources.
    NEW RESOURCES - "Our Newsletter" and "Pen-Parents".
    BOOK REVIEW - "Understanding Death of the Wished-For Child" by Glen W. Davidson, reviewed by Donna Hardaker.
    NEWS CLIPPINGS - 2 articles about aspirin testing in a study about miscarriages.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies. butterfly

    Volume 3, Number 1

    MY STORY - A loss of a baby due to a rare blood immunization problem, by Paula Menzies.
    WHY? - Maternal problems, fibroids, diseases, hormonal problems and diet.
    GRIEVING A MISCARRIAGE - A 2nd miscarriage in 4 mths., by Donna Dilley Janes.
    ASK CATHY - How do you hold on to hope?
    A RESOURCE - Infertility Awareness Association of Canada.
    HOTLINE NUMBER - Motherisk Clinic in Toronto, Ontario.
    BOOK REVIEW - "Miscarriage: Women's Experiences and Needs" by Christine Moulder, reviewed by Kathy Wagner; "When Hello Means Good-Bye: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Dies Before Birth, At Birth or Shortly After Birth" by Pat Schwiebert and Paul Kirk, reviewed by Donna Hardaker.
    NEWS CLIPPINGS - Even Earlier Amnio, Fallopian Tubes Saved With Drug Abortions, Pesticide Problems.
    NEW SUPPORT GROUP - Sunrise Support Group, New Brunswick.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.

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    Volume 3, Number 2

    MY STORY - Difficult pregnancy after 3 miscarriages, dealing with emotions, by Lynne Edwards.
    WHY? - Causes of miscarriage? Contraception methods, previous induced abortion, environmental hazards?
    ASK CATHY - Obsessed with baby thoughts, wanting another after 2 miscarriages - how to manage?
    SHARING - Story of history of multiple miscarriages over several years - sharing can ease the pain.
    MEDICAL TERMINOLOGY - Words that doctors us to describe your pregnancy and precious baby that hurt!
    PREGNANCY FOLLOWING MISCARRIAGE - Overcoming the death through birth experience, by Donna Hardaker.
    A SPECIAL KIND OF GRIEF: - The miscarriage of 1 twin, by Maribeth Doerr.
    NEWS CLIPPINGS - Vaccinations for miscarriage?, Genesis Research Foundation, Cigarette Smoking and Pregnancy.
    BOOK REVIEW - "End Beginnings: Healing Childbearing Losses" by Claudia Panthos and Catherine Romeo, reviewed by Debbie Anderson.
    SUPPORT GROUP - Empty Cradle, B.C.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies. butterfly

    Volume 3, Number 3

    MY STORY - Notes from a Journal during a miscarriage, by Jennifer Boire.
    WHY? - Causes: Antiphospholipid Syndrome?
    FOLLOWING A MISCARRIAGE - Importance of follow-up appointments with your doctor.
    CREATING MEMORIES - Special ways to commemorate your baby's brief existence.
    MISCARRIAGE and INFERTILITY - Some have misfortune of experiencing both.
    GROWTH - 15 steps to help transmit grief into personal growth.
    NEW SUPPORT GROUP - H.O.P.E. in Terrace, B.C.
    THE COURAGE TO GO ON - Conversation with child after 3rd miscarriage, by Tami Gunnison.
    DEAR FRIENDS - Thank you for being there, by Vicki Bennett.
    BOOK REVIEW - "How to Prevent Miscarriage and Other Crisises of Pregnancy" by Stefan Semchyshyn, MD. and Carol Colman, "Getting Around the Boulder in the Road: Using Imagery to Cope with Fertility Problems" by Aline P. Zoldbrod.
    BUTTERFLY'S KISS - The impact of miscarriage, by Pam Riley.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.

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    Volume 3, Number 4

    MY STORY - Hurting after a miscarriage, by Lynne Regnier.
    WHY? - Causes: male contribution, chemicals, age, smoking, drinking and illicit drugs?
    NEWS UPDATE - Smoking, fetal testing, ultrasound.
    MULTIPLE LOSS - Hope for those suffering several miscarriages.
    HOLIDAYS - Surviving after a miscarriage.
    PRENATAL DIAGNOSES and DIFFICULT DECISIONS - Dealing with sadness, emptiness, isolation and fear.
    DENYING THE PAIN OF MISCARRIAGE - Not everyone feels the same.
    MY SON - poem by Tami Gunnison.
    HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS - Four steps to help you C.O.P.E.
    SO MUCH GRIEF - coping after a miscarriage, by Judy Williams.
    BOOK REVIEW - "A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal: For Parents Making Difficult Decisions About Babies They Love" by Molly A. Minnick, MSE, Kathleen J. Delp, ACSW, Landry C. Clotti, MD.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies. butterfly

    Volume 4, Number 1

    MY STORY - Successful pregnancy after 2 miscarriages, by Debby Hall.
    WHY? - Causes: progesterone?
    ARE YOU TAKING YOUR VITAMINS? - Vitamins that could help prevent miscarriage.
    RESOLVING YOUR GRIEF - Allow time to grieve.
    GUILT - Guilty feelings don't make you feel better.
    NEW RESOURCE - Subsequent Pregnancy Newsletter.
    "IT IS ALL FOR THE BEST" - platitudes, by Donna Hardaker.
    A RITUAL TO GRIEVE A MISCARRIAGE - Creating a ceremony, by Emma A. Mellon, PhD.
    MY BABY IS GONE and I DID EVERYTHING WRONG... - Blaming herself, by Sue Stinson.
    SINGLE/DIVORCED BEREAVED PARENT - "Grieving Alone", research project/book by Maribeth Wilder Doerr.
    BOOK REVIEW - "Healing Together: For Couples Whose Baby Dies" by Marcie Lister and Sandra Lovell. "More Than Surviving: Caring for Yourself While You Grieve" by Kelly Osmont.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.

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    Volume 4, Number 2

    MY STORY - Dealing with anticardiolipid and miscarriage.
    AMAZING MEDICAL TECHNOLOGY - Caution may not be a bad thing.
    IN REMEMBRANCE - Memories are forever.
    CANADIAN SUPPORT GROUP - C.O.P.I.N.G. in Winnipeg, Manitoba.
    NEWS - Vinyl chloride exposure, electric blankets.
    CHILDREN KNOW - Children grieve too, by Deena McCauley.
    U.S. SUPPORT NETWORK - M.A.M.A. in California.
    DEATH OF A DREAM, by Linda Young.
    REMEMBRANCE and COMMENDATION - A rite to speak to losses in pregnancy, by Janet S. Peterson.
    AFTER A MISCARRIAGE - Creative Visualization helps expectant mother cope with fears, by Cathy Nobil Dutton.
    BOOK REVIEW - "Yesterday I Dreamed of Dreams . . . Poems, Letters and Memorials Written by Parents for Babies They Love" by Molly A. Minnick.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies. butterfly

    Volume 4, Number 3

    MY STORY - Three miscarriages, trying again.
    WHY? - Causes: weak cervix?
    GRIEVING - Doctors need to acknowledge grief.
    LIFE'S SUDDEN CHANGES - Editor adopts!
    SUPPORT GROUP - Day by Day, in Ontario. Bereaved Families of Ontario - Ottawa-Carleton.
    METHODS OF COPING - some ideas.
    MY LONGING FOR A CHILD - again, I don't get my baby!
    RECURRENT MISCARRIAGES - Polycystic Ovarian Disease, new treatment.
    WHAT TO SAY - Letter from Ann Lander's column.
    A PERSONAL STORY - Stillborn at 23 wks.
    BOOK REVIEW - "Silent Grief: A Booklet for Parents Experiencing Early Pregnancy Loss" by Members of the Perinatal Program.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.

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    (Sorry, Volume 4, Number 4 - no longer available)


    Volume 5, Number 1

    MY STORY - Grieving a loss after 16 years!
    WHY? - Causes: uterine abnormalities?
    DO YOU LIKE BLUE CHEESE? - Bacteria in some cheese may cause miscarriage. NEWS - Chrorionic Villus Sampling, Anticardiolipid.
    CARVED ON THE PALM OF MY HAND - The loss of an entire family.
    WHAT'S IN A HEARTBEAT? - Measuring fetus heartbeat for viable pregnancy.
    butterfly DEAR SHATTERED DREAMS - I need your support again! by Shelley Lombardi.
    BOOK REVIEW - "Miscarriage: Women Sharing from the Heart" by Marie Allen, PhD and Shelly Marks, MS. "Peace of Mind During Pregnancy: An A-Z Guide to the Substance that Could Affect Your Unborn Baby" by Christine Kelley-Buchanan.
    -- In every issue: From the Editor, Poetry, Letters From the Readers, Connections, It Helped When, It Hurt When, Book Reviews, In Loving Memory and Special Babies.


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