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Miscarriage: Subsequent Pregnancy

Pregnancy - a time of joy and anticipation for many parents. Subsequent pregnancy, after experiencing one or more losses, is more often a time of fear and anxiety. Making it past that magic number - 7, 10, 14, 20 weeks - seems to be an impossible eternity.

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Every symptom analyzed - are my breasts tender enough? Am I nauseous enough? Do I still FEEL pregnant? Bathroom visits fraught with fear - will I see blood this time? For some, it means bed rest until the danger time has passed. Others take many trips to our doctor for weekly blood levels and reassurance.

Friends and family, assuring us it can't happen again, seem naive and insensitive to our apprehensions. Commitment to this pregnancy, and bonding to this new fetus can be difficult. Some parents deny their pregnancy outright, until it becomes less tentative.

When our special baby is finally born - health, safe and complete - we may still have important grief work to do. As much as this baby is desired and welcome, it is not the baby (or babies) we lost. The reality of a live, full-term baby is a strong reminder of just what has been lost. Intermingled with the joy and happiness, can be feelings of relief, disappointment, jealousy and unexpected anger.

This baby is not a replacement for those lost, but a special child in his or her own right. Working through our grief by reading related literature, talking with our partner and/or close friends and family, attending a support group (if available) and sharing with others who have experienced such loss(es) is best done before attempting a subsequent pregnancy. This enables us to connect with the new baby with greater ease, renewed strength and better understanding.

Miscarriage poetry by Catherine McDiarmid-Watt - in memory of her 11 babies lost.

This article compliments of Born to Love.

Other articles that might be of interest:
• Miscarriage Article Index
• Shattered Dreams Book-List
• Shattered Dreams Back Issue List
• Poetry of Loss
• Miscarriage: So Terribly Empty
• Death of a Dream
• My Babies, Never-To-Be-Known
• Am I a Mother?
• Miscarriage: Why Grieve?
• What a Shock! Anger?
• Emptiness
• Waiting
• Miscarriage IS a Real Loss
• Subsequent Pregnancy
• Shattered Dreams: To a Subsequent Child
• Multiple Losses
• How Do You Manage?
• Sharing
• Understanding
• How Do You Maintain HOPE?

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Born to Love articles are written by Catherine McDiarmid-Watt

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